Episode 8

Published on:

26th May 2020

True Presence

True Presence: A Game Changing Soft Skill

The lack of true presence impacts those who need it the most. 

Question #1: How do I define true presence in a leader?

Key elements to the idea of a leader’s true presence:

·        True presence in a leader is a moment by moment experience. An experience that can never be fully replicated again.

·        True presence is a subjective experience that often begins with a conversation where the leader asks the right question.

·        True presence is the property of each individual. 

Definition of  true presence: AN INTENTIONAL WAY OF BEING by Dr Rosemary Parse

Question #2: What is the value of true presence in a leader’s life?

Considering the soft skill of true presence nudges us to consider:

•      Deeper, healthier relationships with those you work with or those you serve

•      True presence has a positive impact has on successful outcomes

•      On uncovering what really matters.

The value is not in what you do but the difference you make.

Question #3: What are some practical ways I can choose to embrace true presence? In other words what can I practice to put the human connection at the center of my work as a leader.

In the 1990’s Researchers identified five components of the concept of being intentional. We can use these components to put true presence into practice as “an intentional way of being”.

STEP ONE: You have a desire for an outcome

STEP TWO: You believe that what you are planning will lead to your desired

STEP THREE. You intend to perform the actions within your plan

STEP FOUR: You have the skill exists to perform the action. 

STEP FIVE: You actually perform that action and in that moment of awareness you discover true presence.


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The Art of Leadership
Experienced leader, Niña Ellison, focuses on those seeking a fresh perspective into some of the hardest skills a leader will ever learn.
The Art of Leadership with Niña Ellison focuses on the soft skills of leadership, their value and the power of their influence. As a leader, if you are interested in moving from success to significance then balancing both hard and soft skills is essential! These seemingly opposing skills complement rather than compete with each other. Hard skills are demonstrated through technical expertise that results in clearly measured goals being reached. They are vital to the success of any initiative or program. On the other hand, soft skills emphasize the transformation of people more than the transaction of tasks. They highlight behavioral changes and making a difference in people’s lives. This podcast is for leaders who are seeking a fresh perspective into some of the hardest soft skills a leader will ever learn. You can connect with Nina at https://www.healthyleadership.online

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A leader with over 20 years of experience empowering others to consistently deliver excellence that results in increased growth for the leader, the team and those they serve.